Wedding days can be amazing, joyful days that will be remembered as some of the best days of your life. The few months that come before them, however, can be a nightmare. Wedding stress is a unique type of a blood pressure irritant and, if you’re not careful, you’ll be on the verge of calling it all off at least five times within the first year of planning. However, don’t worry – there are ways to make this process as stress-free as possible and make the entire process of getting married a satisfying one, not just one day:
Share the load
There is no rule, unwritten or otherwise, that says that the bride should be the one to plan the wedding. That is yet another way women are pushed towards doing free labor, and it defeats the purpose of having a celebration for the wedding altogether. And, before you say you’re a bride that wants to do it all by herself, it’s not really fair to exclude the other person, and in a few months, you’ll be wishing you didn’t take it all on yourself. Not to mention, planning a wedding can be a fun activity for you two together and you will bond even more through it. However, if you really want to do it alone and the other person doesn’t really care much about the party, you need to find a support system to help you, whether it’s your friends, your mom or a mix of all of them. It’s always easier to have more people, because then you will always find someone who wants to do each individual task.
Start things on time
You might want to schedule your wedding for tomorrow because you just can’t wait to marry the person you love, but you gotta realize that things take time, especially if you have special requests for some things. A venue might be booked for up to years into the future, and if you want to be amazingly dressed and order the best wedding suits from Sydney, then you’ll have to call quite a bit in advance to make sure you have all of your fittings on time and leave enough time for the tailor to do their magic. Not to mention, you can’t exactly take three months off work to plan your wedding, so you won’t have that much time on a daily basis to devote to that.
If you think about planning your wedding every hour of every day, during your lunch breaks, in the shower and while stuck in traffic – you’ll burn out. You can’t let your life completely revolve around your wedding for months or even years prior to it. The best way to combat this is to schedule specific days when you are devoted to your wedding, like every other weekend or Wednesdays afternoon. This will allow you to focus and be a lot more productive, especially if you can get all of your team together on those days. For the rest of the time, it’s perfectly okay to scroll through Pinterest or look into shop windows when you see a cute centerpiece, but don’t devote yourself to it. Bookmark it, write down a little note and let it wait for your designated wedding-planning time.
If you employ all of these tricks, you’ll wake up on your wedding day stress-free and still excited to see how everything will go. And, when you do inevitably get stressed, remember to take a step back, cuddle up with your partner on the couch and remind yourself of what really matters and why you’re getting married in the first place.